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Active kids

Some parents feel that their kids are overly active and seemed to be unable to concentrate.

To be honest, having two boys meant that we had double the activeness to manage. But as I always told Z, “There was a time to play, you play when it’s time to play.”

Sunshine and the outdoors were critical for active kids. Give them a daily dose, you could be quite sure to have reasonable boys on hand. Whenever they acted up, head for the outdoors. 

Their bodies were crazing for action, so if we could meet their demand, their activeness could be expended. 

That was also the reason why I recognized the importance of playing outdoors. My kids became nicer. They become more reasonable, they actually listened to our explanation and took our alternative suggestions.

If you were to google for “Why is outdoor play important”, you would end up with many education papers explaining the benefits on growth and development of children. You broaden their senses, exploration and help them to learn. That was probably why we always felt the kids underwent a stage of “awakening” after every holiday. It was as though they matured over each trip.

An example of a website sharing tips and importance of outdoor play – http://www.healthyalberta.com/729.htm

Quoted from the above website:

Among a wide range of benefits, outdoor play is vital, because it:

Gives kids a chance to burn off energy

Can be calming and allow kids to “recharge” their energy levels

Helps kids learn to interact with and understand the natural world

Offers a chance for more social interaction with peers

Helps to develop their powers of observation and their assessment of risk

Offers more opportunities for creativity and free play

Helps to build a strong link between physical health and outdoor play, at a young age

I thought the most important pointer was on burning off energy. Handling kids with boundless energies indoors meant they would be bouncing off walls and us!

Technology and kids

I ever wrote that we had weaned Z off his iPad addiction when he turned 24 months’ old and was of a reasoning stage.  It tied in with the “terrible twos” period.

In any case, my expectation was that smart phones and tablets should be used sparingly during family quality time.  We were at a cafe one day when Mr H was using his phone.  I asked if it was work related and when I saw he was playing Candy Crush, my first thought was, “You mean there were more stages to go?”

Instead, I piqued, “Are you seriously playing Candy Crush during family time?”

Z took the full frontal attack and said, “Who say you can use the phone har?”

He told Mr H that no one was to use iPhones or iPads.  He was echoing what I used to tell him when I rejected his requests to use technology during meal times or get-togethers.  My rationale to him had always been that everyone was there to interact, and not to use the smart devices.

Guess Z took my message a lot more serious than Mr H did.

We loved weekends!

Weekends were times for play, bonding and quality family time.

We would usually have dinners on Friday nights, find random things to do, bring  Z for swimming class and simply just play.

I wondered if the kids enjoyed the weekends as much as we do.

Sometimes, we played so hard that we would be so beat by the end of the day, with X nodding off the sleep before bathing, Z dozing off by bath time and I would be catching up on social media news with glazed eyes.  Only Mr H, the man who never needed to sleep, would be active and about.

We watched Rio II on a Friday evening when it first opened.  Some people might think it was a crazy schedule.  We knocked off by 6pm, fed the boys porridge and rushed to town for a 1940H movie.  Post movie, we still shopped and X simply concussed 5 minutes into the ride on the way home.  Even Z had to beg off to bed .  I guess one strategy of parenting which worked very well for us was – Outlast.

We planned so many activities round the clock that we tired them out before they had a chance to tire us out.

KTV & Chinese

One of the ways we showed Z that learning Mandarin was cool was through going for family KTV.

He had been very impressed that we were able to read the Chinese characters and to even sing along.  We shared our favorite songs, our favorite singers and even duets with him.  His face scrunched up when we sang duets with each other, like it was too mushy for him to take.

X had been contented to sit back and watch the MTVs.

We had always exhibited that toggling between English and Mandarin was as easy as ABC.  As a result, he had always embrace bilingualism without giving the second language any doubts.  He had been telling us that he was looking forward to the day when he could attend an adult’s concert.

Communicating with your baby


I read this and totally agreed with it. It was something simple but yet did wonders for our sanity.

Interestingly, the recommendation to talk to the child frequently did not come from any parenting books. It was imparted by my mother. She constantly reminded us to communicate at each and every stage so that babies would know what to expect of the situation.

I talked a lot to both Z and X and this habit worked for us. I had always been big on communications so enforcing this habit was very natural. Perhaps it was all so natural that Z was big on communicating too.