X was recently given this leap frog toy during his birthday. The objective was to drop the ball into the hole at the top and find which ‘shoe’ the ball could be found in.
Z was over zealous and kept taking over the toy. We insisted that he let X play first and not interfere with X’s independent learning. Z was rather miffed initially.
We let X explore but all he wanted to do was to hold the balls in his hands. We had to pry his fingers open and force him to drop the balls into the toy. X was furious when we forced him to release the balls and even smashed the free ball in his other hand on the floor!
We got tired of repeating the action with him and let both boys to their own devices.
A day later, I was surprised to see X playing rather proficiently with the toy. He was able to drop the balls into the toy and seek out the balls by flipping up the shoes happily, unlike how he was flipping up the shoes frustratedly the day before.
This certainly showed me that he learned more from Z’s demonstration than ours, and that Z had been able to do it repeatedly happily as opposed to our lack of patience.
It taught me that while we knew how to do certain tasks, we would not always possess the right aptitude to impart the skills. Z did a way better job to teach X to play independently through his own means. I seriously could not recall an example where I was able to teach Z to pick up such skills as fast in the past.
Z proved to be the better mentor. Kids ruled.
Living the moment and not to be distracted by fleeting thoughts or technology
Savoring X’s every baby moment and enjoying his baby grins
Talking graciously and sincerely with Z, and answer every question with zest regardless of the difficulty or hassle in explanation
Loving Mr H more and more for the man who overindulges with his acts of love.
Spending more time with family and friends
And lastly, looking forward to chilling with a glass of wine when this breast feeding stint is over.
We counted down in the comfort of our bedroom with the 2 kids.
X actually clapped his hands at the end of the countdown.
Z had also acknowledged that he was now 5 years old despite only celebrating his 4th birthday last week.
Well, a brand new year did not feel particularly different since I did not have overdue holiday homework to do.
Cherish everyday as though it was your last.
Always choose to be happy. Happiness is a choice, not a fluke.
As long as you could live happy, that would be the best resolution ever.
As 2013 was closing to an end, it served to remind most of us to make time for friends who we had not seen in ages. Thanks to Facebook, we were updated on what each other was doing. No thanks to Facebook, it provided such real-time updates that you could see the time slipping away.
The marker of time had to our children. As they grew taller and stronger, we wondered about the lost and the forgotten times.
That was why blogging was important. All moments recorded, no memories lost.
I was thankful to have the chance to meet up my ex-schoolmates from Post grad, from uni, from JC and even ex-colleagues. We caught up, relived the past a little and strengthened ties which could have been diluted by time.
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Always be kind and honorable in everything you do. Live it right, live happy and learn to embrace differences because that is what makes the world colourful, memorable and beautiful.
What goes round comes around and don’t let that bite.
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